Comments on: a rant on monogamy: http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/ A pep talk in the form of a slap in the face in the form of a blog. Thu, 09 Sep 2010 04:11:09 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: different nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-12341 different nicole Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:18:58 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-12341 Of course everyone loves that first "euphoric" stage of the relationship. I've been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I'd say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We've gotten to a more "chill" stage of love now I guess. Of course we're still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it's not the same as it was. And you know what, that's not bad at all. It's not better or worse, it's just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we're bored, not because we're boring, but because we know each other so well that we don't have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who've never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something "boring." But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don't have to/need to take anyone's advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that's not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that's all you can do. Of course everyone loves that first “euphoric” stage of the relationship. I’ve been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I’d say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We’ve gotten to a more “chill” stage of love now I guess. Of course we’re still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it’s not the same as it was. And you know what, that’s not bad at all. It’s not better or worse, it’s just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we’re bored, not because we’re boring, but because we know each other so well that we don’t have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who’ve never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something “boring.” But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don’t have to/need to take anyone’s advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that’s not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that’s all you can do.

]]> By: Kitten http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-607 Kitten Fri, 29 May 2009 16:36:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-607 Read your blog....blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20's) and have been married 2 times....your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying...(ahem...clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows.."rich or pore, good and bad" etc.... which is what connects me with the man I "love". Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits...work, kids, every day life....as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) "You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can't live whithout her......(40 years later) that is love...true love" <br /><br />So, I guess the real question is....can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times....THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up....many times....but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words? <br /><br />Even I can't answer....as I struggle....I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic....know there is always always going to be someone else...wanting you...tempting you....to be beter then what have, to love you more....to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel "Connected" to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life...Can a person do...<br /><br />Sure....Sure..... Read your blog….blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20’s) and have been married 2 times….your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying…(ahem…clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows..”rich or pore, good and bad” etc…. which is what connects me with the man I “love”. Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits…work, kids, every day life….as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) “You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can’t live whithout her……(40 years later) that is love…true love”

So, I guess the real question is….can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times….THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up….many times….but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words?

Even I can’t answer….as I struggle….I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic….know there is always always going to be someone else…wanting you…tempting you….to be beter then what have, to love you more….to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel “Connected” to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life…Can a person do…

Sure….Sure…..

]]> By: Riff Dog http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-608 Riff Dog Wed, 27 May 2009 11:32:13 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-608 I agree with most of what you're saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then "moving on" is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I've chosen. ;-) I agree with most of what you’re saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then “moving on” is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I’ve chosen. ;-)

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-609 Anonymous Tue, 26 May 2009 00:18:09 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-609 Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend...if it's deep you'll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn't want to be with anyone else. Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend…if it’s deep you’ll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn’t want to be with anyone else.

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-610 Anonymous Sun, 24 May 2009 13:14:33 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-610 I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can't stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that's how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous. I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can’t stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that’s how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous.

]]> By: emma http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-611 emma Thu, 21 May 2009 02:42:32 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-611 I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.<br />but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want<br /><br />& i love your blog too xo I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.
but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want

& i love your blog too xo

]]> By: grace http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-612 grace Thu, 21 May 2009 01:25:56 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-612 i fucking love your blog. i fucking love your blog.

]]> By: LCWG http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-613 LCWG Thu, 21 May 2009 00:14:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-613 <i>hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???</i>Alas, no - 'lust' has Germanic roots, whereas 'lustre' comes from the Latin word for - er - 'lustre'. Interesting theory, though...<br /><br />Signed,<br /><br />Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can't believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight... just think of it as sexual attraction and it's not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I'm concerned.)<br /><br />(Suddenly, I feel very sad.) hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???Alas, no – ‘lust’ has Germanic roots, whereas ‘lustre’ comes from the Latin word for – er – ‘lustre’. Interesting theory, though…

Signed,

Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can’t believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight… just think of it as sexual attraction and it’s not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I’m concerned.)

(Suddenly, I feel very sad.)

]]> By: Nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-614 Nicole Wed, 20 May 2009 22:48:41 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-614 thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven't seem long at all so i'm excited to see what's to come :D <br /><br />p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING! thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven’t seem long at all so i’m excited to see what’s to come :D

p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING!

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/ A pep talk in the form of a slap in the face in the form of a blog. Thu, 09 Sep 2010 04:11:09 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 Comments on: a rant on monogamy: http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/ A pep talk in the form of a slap in the face in the form of a blog. Thu, 09 Sep 2010 04:11:09 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: different nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-12341 different nicole Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:18:58 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-12341 Of course everyone loves that first "euphoric" stage of the relationship. I've been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I'd say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We've gotten to a more "chill" stage of love now I guess. Of course we're still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it's not the same as it was. And you know what, that's not bad at all. It's not better or worse, it's just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we're bored, not because we're boring, but because we know each other so well that we don't have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who've never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something "boring." But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don't have to/need to take anyone's advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that's not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that's all you can do. Of course everyone loves that first “euphoric” stage of the relationship. I’ve been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I’d say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We’ve gotten to a more “chill” stage of love now I guess. Of course we’re still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it’s not the same as it was. And you know what, that’s not bad at all. It’s not better or worse, it’s just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we’re bored, not because we’re boring, but because we know each other so well that we don’t have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who’ve never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something “boring.” But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don’t have to/need to take anyone’s advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that’s not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that’s all you can do.

]]> By: Kitten http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-607 Kitten Fri, 29 May 2009 16:36:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-607 Read your blog....blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20's) and have been married 2 times....your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying...(ahem...clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows.."rich or pore, good and bad" etc.... which is what connects me with the man I "love". Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits...work, kids, every day life....as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) "You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can't live whithout her......(40 years later) that is love...true love" <br /><br />So, I guess the real question is....can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times....THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up....many times....but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words? <br /><br />Even I can't answer....as I struggle....I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic....know there is always always going to be someone else...wanting you...tempting you....to be beter then what have, to love you more....to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel "Connected" to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life...Can a person do...<br /><br />Sure....Sure..... Read your blog….blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20’s) and have been married 2 times….your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying…(ahem…clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows..”rich or pore, good and bad” etc…. which is what connects me with the man I “love”. Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits…work, kids, every day life….as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) “You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can’t live whithout her……(40 years later) that is love…true love”

So, I guess the real question is….can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times….THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up….many times….but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words?

Even I can’t answer….as I struggle….I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic….know there is always always going to be someone else…wanting you…tempting you….to be beter then what have, to love you more….to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel “Connected” to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life…Can a person do…

Sure….Sure…..

]]> By: Riff Dog http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-608 Riff Dog Wed, 27 May 2009 11:32:13 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-608 I agree with most of what you're saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then "moving on" is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I've chosen. ;-) I agree with most of what you’re saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then “moving on” is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I’ve chosen. ;-)

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-609 Anonymous Tue, 26 May 2009 00:18:09 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-609 Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend...if it's deep you'll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn't want to be with anyone else. Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend…if it’s deep you’ll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn’t want to be with anyone else.

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-610 Anonymous Sun, 24 May 2009 13:14:33 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-610 I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can't stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that's how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous. I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can’t stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that’s how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous.

]]> By: emma http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-611 emma Thu, 21 May 2009 02:42:32 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-611 I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.<br />but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want<br /><br />& i love your blog too xo I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.
but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want

& i love your blog too xo

]]> By: grace http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-612 grace Thu, 21 May 2009 01:25:56 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-612 i fucking love your blog. i fucking love your blog.

]]> By: LCWG http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-613 LCWG Thu, 21 May 2009 00:14:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-613 <i>hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???</i>Alas, no - 'lust' has Germanic roots, whereas 'lustre' comes from the Latin word for - er - 'lustre'. Interesting theory, though...<br /><br />Signed,<br /><br />Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can't believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight... just think of it as sexual attraction and it's not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I'm concerned.)<br /><br />(Suddenly, I feel very sad.) hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???Alas, no – ‘lust’ has Germanic roots, whereas ‘lustre’ comes from the Latin word for – er – ‘lustre’. Interesting theory, though…

Signed,

Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can’t believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight… just think of it as sexual attraction and it’s not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I’m concerned.)

(Suddenly, I feel very sad.)

]]> By: Nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-614 Nicole Wed, 20 May 2009 22:48:41 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-614 thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven't seem long at all so i'm excited to see what's to come :D <br /><br />p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING! thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven’t seem long at all so i’m excited to see what’s to come :D

p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING!

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-12341 different nicole Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:18:58 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-12341 Of course everyone loves that first "euphoric" stage of the relationship. I've been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I'd say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We've gotten to a more "chill" stage of love now I guess. Of course we're still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it's not the same as it was. And you know what, that's not bad at all. It's not better or worse, it's just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we're bored, not because we're boring, but because we know each other so well that we don't have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who've never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something "boring." But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don't have to/need to take anyone's advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that's not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that's all you can do. Of course everyone loves that first “euphoric” stage of the relationship. I’ve been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I’d say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We’ve gotten to a more “chill” stage of love now I guess. Of course we’re still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it’s not the same as it was. And you know what, that’s not bad at all. It’s not better or worse, it’s just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we’re bored, not because we’re boring, but because we know each other so well that we don’t have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who’ve never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something “boring.” But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don’t have to/need to take anyone’s advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that’s not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that’s all you can do.

]]> Comments on: a rant on monogamy: http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/ A pep talk in the form of a slap in the face in the form of a blog. Thu, 09 Sep 2010 04:11:09 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: different nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-12341 different nicole Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:18:58 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-12341 Of course everyone loves that first "euphoric" stage of the relationship. I've been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I'd say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We've gotten to a more "chill" stage of love now I guess. Of course we're still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it's not the same as it was. And you know what, that's not bad at all. It's not better or worse, it's just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we're bored, not because we're boring, but because we know each other so well that we don't have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who've never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something "boring." But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don't have to/need to take anyone's advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that's not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that's all you can do. Of course everyone loves that first “euphoric” stage of the relationship. I’ve been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I’d say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We’ve gotten to a more “chill” stage of love now I guess. Of course we’re still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it’s not the same as it was. And you know what, that’s not bad at all. It’s not better or worse, it’s just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we’re bored, not because we’re boring, but because we know each other so well that we don’t have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who’ve never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something “boring.” But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don’t have to/need to take anyone’s advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that’s not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that’s all you can do.

]]> By: Kitten http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-607 Kitten Fri, 29 May 2009 16:36:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-607 Read your blog....blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20's) and have been married 2 times....your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying...(ahem...clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows.."rich or pore, good and bad" etc.... which is what connects me with the man I "love". Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits...work, kids, every day life....as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) "You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can't live whithout her......(40 years later) that is love...true love" <br /><br />So, I guess the real question is....can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times....THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up....many times....but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words? <br /><br />Even I can't answer....as I struggle....I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic....know there is always always going to be someone else...wanting you...tempting you....to be beter then what have, to love you more....to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel "Connected" to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life...Can a person do...<br /><br />Sure....Sure..... Read your blog….blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20’s) and have been married 2 times….your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying…(ahem…clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows..”rich or pore, good and bad” etc…. which is what connects me with the man I “love”. Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits…work, kids, every day life….as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) “You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can’t live whithout her……(40 years later) that is love…true love”

So, I guess the real question is….can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times….THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up….many times….but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words?

Even I can’t answer….as I struggle….I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic….know there is always always going to be someone else…wanting you…tempting you….to be beter then what have, to love you more….to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel “Connected” to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life…Can a person do…

Sure….Sure…..

]]> By: Riff Dog http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-608 Riff Dog Wed, 27 May 2009 11:32:13 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-608 I agree with most of what you're saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then "moving on" is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I've chosen. ;-) I agree with most of what you’re saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then “moving on” is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I’ve chosen. ;-)

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-609 Anonymous Tue, 26 May 2009 00:18:09 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-609 Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend...if it's deep you'll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn't want to be with anyone else. Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend…if it’s deep you’ll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn’t want to be with anyone else.

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-610 Anonymous Sun, 24 May 2009 13:14:33 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-610 I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can't stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that's how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous. I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can’t stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that’s how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous.

]]> By: emma http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-611 emma Thu, 21 May 2009 02:42:32 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-611 I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.<br />but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want<br /><br />& i love your blog too xo I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.
but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want

& i love your blog too xo

]]> By: grace http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-612 grace Thu, 21 May 2009 01:25:56 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-612 i fucking love your blog. i fucking love your blog.

]]> By: LCWG http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-613 LCWG Thu, 21 May 2009 00:14:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-613 <i>hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???</i>Alas, no - 'lust' has Germanic roots, whereas 'lustre' comes from the Latin word for - er - 'lustre'. Interesting theory, though...<br /><br />Signed,<br /><br />Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can't believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight... just think of it as sexual attraction and it's not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I'm concerned.)<br /><br />(Suddenly, I feel very sad.) hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???Alas, no – ‘lust’ has Germanic roots, whereas ‘lustre’ comes from the Latin word for – er – ‘lustre’. Interesting theory, though…

Signed,

Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can’t believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight… just think of it as sexual attraction and it’s not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I’m concerned.)

(Suddenly, I feel very sad.)

]]> By: Nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-614 Nicole Wed, 20 May 2009 22:48:41 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-614 thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven't seem long at all so i'm excited to see what's to come :D <br /><br />p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING! thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven’t seem long at all so i’m excited to see what’s to come :D

p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING!

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-607 Kitten Fri, 29 May 2009 16:36:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-607 Read your blog....blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20's) and have been married 2 times....your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying...(ahem...clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows.."rich or pore, good and bad" etc.... which is what connects me with the man I "love". Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits...work, kids, every day life....as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) "You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can't live whithout her......(40 years later) that is love...true love" <br /><br />So, I guess the real question is....can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times....THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up....many times....but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words? <br /><br />Even I can't answer....as I struggle....I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic....know there is always always going to be someone else...wanting you...tempting you....to be beter then what have, to love you more....to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel "Connected" to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life...Can a person do...<br /><br />Sure....Sure..... Read your blog….blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20’s) and have been married 2 times….your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying…(ahem…clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows..”rich or pore, good and bad” etc…. which is what connects me with the man I “love”. Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits…work, kids, every day life….as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) “You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can’t live whithout her……(40 years later) that is love…true love”

So, I guess the real question is….can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times….THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up….many times….but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words?

Even I can’t answer….as I struggle….I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic….know there is always always going to be someone else…wanting you…tempting you….to be beter then what have, to love you more….to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel “Connected” to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life…Can a person do…

Sure….Sure…..

]]> Comments on: a rant on monogamy: http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/ A pep talk in the form of a slap in the face in the form of a blog. Thu, 09 Sep 2010 04:11:09 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: different nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-12341 different nicole Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:18:58 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-12341 Of course everyone loves that first "euphoric" stage of the relationship. I've been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I'd say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We've gotten to a more "chill" stage of love now I guess. Of course we're still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it's not the same as it was. And you know what, that's not bad at all. It's not better or worse, it's just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we're bored, not because we're boring, but because we know each other so well that we don't have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who've never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something "boring." But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don't have to/need to take anyone's advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that's not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that's all you can do. Of course everyone loves that first “euphoric” stage of the relationship. I’ve been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I’d say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We’ve gotten to a more “chill” stage of love now I guess. Of course we’re still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it’s not the same as it was. And you know what, that’s not bad at all. It’s not better or worse, it’s just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we’re bored, not because we’re boring, but because we know each other so well that we don’t have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who’ve never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something “boring.” But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don’t have to/need to take anyone’s advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that’s not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that’s all you can do.

]]> By: Kitten http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-607 Kitten Fri, 29 May 2009 16:36:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-607 Read your blog....blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20's) and have been married 2 times....your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying...(ahem...clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows.."rich or pore, good and bad" etc.... which is what connects me with the man I "love". Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits...work, kids, every day life....as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) "You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can't live whithout her......(40 years later) that is love...true love" <br /><br />So, I guess the real question is....can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times....THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up....many times....but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words? <br /><br />Even I can't answer....as I struggle....I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic....know there is always always going to be someone else...wanting you...tempting you....to be beter then what have, to love you more....to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel "Connected" to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life...Can a person do...<br /><br />Sure....Sure..... Read your blog….blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20’s) and have been married 2 times….your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying…(ahem…clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows..”rich or pore, good and bad” etc…. which is what connects me with the man I “love”. Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits…work, kids, every day life….as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) “You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can’t live whithout her……(40 years later) that is love…true love”

So, I guess the real question is….can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times….THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up….many times….but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words?

Even I can’t answer….as I struggle….I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic….know there is always always going to be someone else…wanting you…tempting you….to be beter then what have, to love you more….to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel “Connected” to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life…Can a person do…

Sure….Sure…..

]]> By: Riff Dog http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-608 Riff Dog Wed, 27 May 2009 11:32:13 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-608 I agree with most of what you're saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then "moving on" is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I've chosen. ;-) I agree with most of what you’re saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then “moving on” is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I’ve chosen. ;-)

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-609 Anonymous Tue, 26 May 2009 00:18:09 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-609 Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend...if it's deep you'll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn't want to be with anyone else. Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend…if it’s deep you’ll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn’t want to be with anyone else.

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-610 Anonymous Sun, 24 May 2009 13:14:33 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-610 I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can't stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that's how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous. I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can’t stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that’s how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous.

]]> By: emma http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-611 emma Thu, 21 May 2009 02:42:32 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-611 I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.<br />but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want<br /><br />& i love your blog too xo I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.
but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want

& i love your blog too xo

]]> By: grace http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-612 grace Thu, 21 May 2009 01:25:56 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-612 i fucking love your blog. i fucking love your blog.

]]> By: LCWG http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-613 LCWG Thu, 21 May 2009 00:14:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-613 <i>hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???</i>Alas, no - 'lust' has Germanic roots, whereas 'lustre' comes from the Latin word for - er - 'lustre'. Interesting theory, though...<br /><br />Signed,<br /><br />Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can't believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight... just think of it as sexual attraction and it's not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I'm concerned.)<br /><br />(Suddenly, I feel very sad.) hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???Alas, no – ‘lust’ has Germanic roots, whereas ‘lustre’ comes from the Latin word for – er – ‘lustre’. Interesting theory, though…

Signed,

Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can’t believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight… just think of it as sexual attraction and it’s not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I’m concerned.)

(Suddenly, I feel very sad.)

]]> By: Nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-614 Nicole Wed, 20 May 2009 22:48:41 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-614 thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven't seem long at all so i'm excited to see what's to come :D <br /><br />p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING! thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven’t seem long at all so i’m excited to see what’s to come :D

p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING!

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-608 Riff Dog Wed, 27 May 2009 11:32:13 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-608 I agree with most of what you're saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then "moving on" is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I've chosen. ;-) I agree with most of what you’re saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then “moving on” is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I’ve chosen. ;-)

]]> Comments on: a rant on monogamy: http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/ A pep talk in the form of a slap in the face in the form of a blog. Thu, 09 Sep 2010 04:11:09 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: different nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-12341 different nicole Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:18:58 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-12341 Of course everyone loves that first "euphoric" stage of the relationship. I've been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I'd say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We've gotten to a more "chill" stage of love now I guess. Of course we're still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it's not the same as it was. And you know what, that's not bad at all. It's not better or worse, it's just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we're bored, not because we're boring, but because we know each other so well that we don't have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who've never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something "boring." But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don't have to/need to take anyone's advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that's not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that's all you can do. Of course everyone loves that first “euphoric” stage of the relationship. I’ve been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I’d say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We’ve gotten to a more “chill” stage of love now I guess. Of course we’re still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it’s not the same as it was. And you know what, that’s not bad at all. It’s not better or worse, it’s just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we’re bored, not because we’re boring, but because we know each other so well that we don’t have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who’ve never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something “boring.” But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don’t have to/need to take anyone’s advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that’s not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that’s all you can do.

]]> By: Kitten http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-607 Kitten Fri, 29 May 2009 16:36:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-607 Read your blog....blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20's) and have been married 2 times....your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying...(ahem...clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows.."rich or pore, good and bad" etc.... which is what connects me with the man I "love". Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits...work, kids, every day life....as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) "You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can't live whithout her......(40 years later) that is love...true love" <br /><br />So, I guess the real question is....can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times....THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up....many times....but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words? <br /><br />Even I can't answer....as I struggle....I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic....know there is always always going to be someone else...wanting you...tempting you....to be beter then what have, to love you more....to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel "Connected" to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life...Can a person do...<br /><br />Sure....Sure..... Read your blog….blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20’s) and have been married 2 times….your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying…(ahem…clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows..”rich or pore, good and bad” etc…. which is what connects me with the man I “love”. Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits…work, kids, every day life….as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) “You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can’t live whithout her……(40 years later) that is love…true love”

So, I guess the real question is….can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times….THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up….many times….but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words?

Even I can’t answer….as I struggle….I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic….know there is always always going to be someone else…wanting you…tempting you….to be beter then what have, to love you more….to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel “Connected” to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life…Can a person do…

Sure….Sure…..

]]> By: Riff Dog http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-608 Riff Dog Wed, 27 May 2009 11:32:13 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-608 I agree with most of what you're saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then "moving on" is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I've chosen. ;-) I agree with most of what you’re saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then “moving on” is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I’ve chosen. ;-)

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-609 Anonymous Tue, 26 May 2009 00:18:09 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-609 Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend...if it's deep you'll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn't want to be with anyone else. Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend…if it’s deep you’ll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn’t want to be with anyone else.

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-610 Anonymous Sun, 24 May 2009 13:14:33 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-610 I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can't stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that's how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous. I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can’t stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that’s how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous.

]]> By: emma http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-611 emma Thu, 21 May 2009 02:42:32 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-611 I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.<br />but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want<br /><br />& i love your blog too xo I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.
but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want

& i love your blog too xo

]]> By: grace http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-612 grace Thu, 21 May 2009 01:25:56 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-612 i fucking love your blog. i fucking love your blog.

]]> By: LCWG http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-613 LCWG Thu, 21 May 2009 00:14:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-613 <i>hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???</i>Alas, no - 'lust' has Germanic roots, whereas 'lustre' comes from the Latin word for - er - 'lustre'. Interesting theory, though...<br /><br />Signed,<br /><br />Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can't believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight... just think of it as sexual attraction and it's not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I'm concerned.)<br /><br />(Suddenly, I feel very sad.) hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???Alas, no – ‘lust’ has Germanic roots, whereas ‘lustre’ comes from the Latin word for – er – ‘lustre’. Interesting theory, though…

Signed,

Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can’t believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight… just think of it as sexual attraction and it’s not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I’m concerned.)

(Suddenly, I feel very sad.)

]]> By: Nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-614 Nicole Wed, 20 May 2009 22:48:41 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-614 thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven't seem long at all so i'm excited to see what's to come :D <br /><br />p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING! thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven’t seem long at all so i’m excited to see what’s to come :D

p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING!

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-609 Anonymous Tue, 26 May 2009 00:18:09 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-609 Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend...if it's deep you'll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn't want to be with anyone else. Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend…if it’s deep you’ll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn’t want to be with anyone else.

]]> Comments on: a rant on monogamy: http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/ A pep talk in the form of a slap in the face in the form of a blog. Thu, 09 Sep 2010 04:11:09 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: different nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-12341 different nicole Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:18:58 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-12341 Of course everyone loves that first "euphoric" stage of the relationship. I've been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I'd say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We've gotten to a more "chill" stage of love now I guess. Of course we're still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it's not the same as it was. And you know what, that's not bad at all. It's not better or worse, it's just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we're bored, not because we're boring, but because we know each other so well that we don't have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who've never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something "boring." But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don't have to/need to take anyone's advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that's not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that's all you can do. Of course everyone loves that first “euphoric” stage of the relationship. I’ve been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I’d say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We’ve gotten to a more “chill” stage of love now I guess. Of course we’re still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it’s not the same as it was. And you know what, that’s not bad at all. It’s not better or worse, it’s just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we’re bored, not because we’re boring, but because we know each other so well that we don’t have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who’ve never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something “boring.” But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don’t have to/need to take anyone’s advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that’s not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that’s all you can do.

]]> By: Kitten http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-607 Kitten Fri, 29 May 2009 16:36:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-607 Read your blog....blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20's) and have been married 2 times....your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying...(ahem...clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows.."rich or pore, good and bad" etc.... which is what connects me with the man I "love". Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits...work, kids, every day life....as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) "You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can't live whithout her......(40 years later) that is love...true love" <br /><br />So, I guess the real question is....can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times....THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up....many times....but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words? <br /><br />Even I can't answer....as I struggle....I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic....know there is always always going to be someone else...wanting you...tempting you....to be beter then what have, to love you more....to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel "Connected" to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life...Can a person do...<br /><br />Sure....Sure..... Read your blog….blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20’s) and have been married 2 times….your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying…(ahem…clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows..”rich or pore, good and bad” etc…. which is what connects me with the man I “love”. Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits…work, kids, every day life….as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) “You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can’t live whithout her……(40 years later) that is love…true love”

So, I guess the real question is….can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times….THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up….many times….but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words?

Even I can’t answer….as I struggle….I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic….know there is always always going to be someone else…wanting you…tempting you….to be beter then what have, to love you more….to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel “Connected” to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life…Can a person do…

Sure….Sure…..

]]> By: Riff Dog http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-608 Riff Dog Wed, 27 May 2009 11:32:13 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-608 I agree with most of what you're saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then "moving on" is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I've chosen. ;-) I agree with most of what you’re saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then “moving on” is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I’ve chosen. ;-)

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-609 Anonymous Tue, 26 May 2009 00:18:09 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-609 Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend...if it's deep you'll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn't want to be with anyone else. Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend…if it’s deep you’ll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn’t want to be with anyone else.

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-610 Anonymous Sun, 24 May 2009 13:14:33 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-610 I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can't stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that's how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous. I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can’t stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that’s how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous.

]]> By: emma http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-611 emma Thu, 21 May 2009 02:42:32 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-611 I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.<br />but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want<br /><br />& i love your blog too xo I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.
but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want

& i love your blog too xo

]]> By: grace http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-612 grace Thu, 21 May 2009 01:25:56 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-612 i fucking love your blog. i fucking love your blog.

]]> By: LCWG http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-613 LCWG Thu, 21 May 2009 00:14:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-613 <i>hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???</i>Alas, no - 'lust' has Germanic roots, whereas 'lustre' comes from the Latin word for - er - 'lustre'. Interesting theory, though...<br /><br />Signed,<br /><br />Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can't believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight... just think of it as sexual attraction and it's not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I'm concerned.)<br /><br />(Suddenly, I feel very sad.) hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???Alas, no – ‘lust’ has Germanic roots, whereas ‘lustre’ comes from the Latin word for – er – ‘lustre’. Interesting theory, though…

Signed,

Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can’t believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight… just think of it as sexual attraction and it’s not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I’m concerned.)

(Suddenly, I feel very sad.)

]]> By: Nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-614 Nicole Wed, 20 May 2009 22:48:41 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-614 thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven't seem long at all so i'm excited to see what's to come :D <br /><br />p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING! thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven’t seem long at all so i’m excited to see what’s to come :D

p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING!

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-610 Anonymous Sun, 24 May 2009 13:14:33 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-610 I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can't stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that's how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous. I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can’t stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that’s how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous.

]]> Comments on: a rant on monogamy: http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/ A pep talk in the form of a slap in the face in the form of a blog. Thu, 09 Sep 2010 04:11:09 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: different nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-12341 different nicole Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:18:58 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-12341 Of course everyone loves that first "euphoric" stage of the relationship. I've been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I'd say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We've gotten to a more "chill" stage of love now I guess. Of course we're still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it's not the same as it was. And you know what, that's not bad at all. It's not better or worse, it's just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we're bored, not because we're boring, but because we know each other so well that we don't have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who've never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something "boring." But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don't have to/need to take anyone's advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that's not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that's all you can do. Of course everyone loves that first “euphoric” stage of the relationship. I’ve been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I’d say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We’ve gotten to a more “chill” stage of love now I guess. Of course we’re still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it’s not the same as it was. And you know what, that’s not bad at all. It’s not better or worse, it’s just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we’re bored, not because we’re boring, but because we know each other so well that we don’t have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who’ve never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something “boring.” But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don’t have to/need to take anyone’s advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that’s not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that’s all you can do.

]]> By: Kitten http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-607 Kitten Fri, 29 May 2009 16:36:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-607 Read your blog....blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20's) and have been married 2 times....your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying...(ahem...clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows.."rich or pore, good and bad" etc.... which is what connects me with the man I "love". Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits...work, kids, every day life....as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) "You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can't live whithout her......(40 years later) that is love...true love" <br /><br />So, I guess the real question is....can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times....THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up....many times....but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words? <br /><br />Even I can't answer....as I struggle....I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic....know there is always always going to be someone else...wanting you...tempting you....to be beter then what have, to love you more....to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel "Connected" to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life...Can a person do...<br /><br />Sure....Sure..... Read your blog….blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20’s) and have been married 2 times….your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying…(ahem…clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows..”rich or pore, good and bad” etc…. which is what connects me with the man I “love”. Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits…work, kids, every day life….as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) “You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can’t live whithout her……(40 years later) that is love…true love”

So, I guess the real question is….can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times….THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up….many times….but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words?

Even I can’t answer….as I struggle….I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic….know there is always always going to be someone else…wanting you…tempting you….to be beter then what have, to love you more….to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel “Connected” to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life…Can a person do…

Sure….Sure…..

]]> By: Riff Dog http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-608 Riff Dog Wed, 27 May 2009 11:32:13 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-608 I agree with most of what you're saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then "moving on" is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I've chosen. ;-) I agree with most of what you’re saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then “moving on” is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I’ve chosen. ;-)

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-609 Anonymous Tue, 26 May 2009 00:18:09 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-609 Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend...if it's deep you'll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn't want to be with anyone else. Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend…if it’s deep you’ll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn’t want to be with anyone else.

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-610 Anonymous Sun, 24 May 2009 13:14:33 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-610 I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can't stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that's how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous. I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can’t stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that’s how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous.

]]> By: emma http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-611 emma Thu, 21 May 2009 02:42:32 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-611 I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.<br />but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want<br /><br />& i love your blog too xo I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.
but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want

& i love your blog too xo

]]> By: grace http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-612 grace Thu, 21 May 2009 01:25:56 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-612 i fucking love your blog. i fucking love your blog.

]]> By: LCWG http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-613 LCWG Thu, 21 May 2009 00:14:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-613 <i>hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???</i>Alas, no - 'lust' has Germanic roots, whereas 'lustre' comes from the Latin word for - er - 'lustre'. Interesting theory, though...<br /><br />Signed,<br /><br />Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can't believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight... just think of it as sexual attraction and it's not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I'm concerned.)<br /><br />(Suddenly, I feel very sad.) hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???Alas, no – ‘lust’ has Germanic roots, whereas ‘lustre’ comes from the Latin word for – er – ‘lustre’. Interesting theory, though…

Signed,

Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can’t believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight… just think of it as sexual attraction and it’s not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I’m concerned.)

(Suddenly, I feel very sad.)

]]> By: Nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-614 Nicole Wed, 20 May 2009 22:48:41 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-614 thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven't seem long at all so i'm excited to see what's to come :D <br /><br />p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING! thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven’t seem long at all so i’m excited to see what’s to come :D

p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING!

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-611 emma Thu, 21 May 2009 02:42:32 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-611 I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.<br />but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want<br /><br />& i love your blog too xo I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.
but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want

& i love your blog too xo

]]> Comments on: a rant on monogamy: http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/ A pep talk in the form of a slap in the face in the form of a blog. Thu, 09 Sep 2010 04:11:09 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: different nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-12341 different nicole Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:18:58 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-12341 Of course everyone loves that first "euphoric" stage of the relationship. I've been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I'd say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We've gotten to a more "chill" stage of love now I guess. Of course we're still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it's not the same as it was. And you know what, that's not bad at all. It's not better or worse, it's just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we're bored, not because we're boring, but because we know each other so well that we don't have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who've never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something "boring." But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don't have to/need to take anyone's advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that's not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that's all you can do. Of course everyone loves that first “euphoric” stage of the relationship. I’ve been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I’d say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We’ve gotten to a more “chill” stage of love now I guess. Of course we’re still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it’s not the same as it was. And you know what, that’s not bad at all. It’s not better or worse, it’s just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we’re bored, not because we’re boring, but because we know each other so well that we don’t have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who’ve never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something “boring.” But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don’t have to/need to take anyone’s advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that’s not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that’s all you can do.

]]> By: Kitten http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-607 Kitten Fri, 29 May 2009 16:36:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-607 Read your blog....blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20's) and have been married 2 times....your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying...(ahem...clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows.."rich or pore, good and bad" etc.... which is what connects me with the man I "love". Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits...work, kids, every day life....as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) "You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can't live whithout her......(40 years later) that is love...true love" <br /><br />So, I guess the real question is....can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times....THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up....many times....but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words? <br /><br />Even I can't answer....as I struggle....I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic....know there is always always going to be someone else...wanting you...tempting you....to be beter then what have, to love you more....to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel "Connected" to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life...Can a person do...<br /><br />Sure....Sure..... Read your blog….blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20’s) and have been married 2 times….your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying…(ahem…clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows..”rich or pore, good and bad” etc…. which is what connects me with the man I “love”. Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits…work, kids, every day life….as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) “You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can’t live whithout her……(40 years later) that is love…true love”

So, I guess the real question is….can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times….THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up….many times….but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words?

Even I can’t answer….as I struggle….I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic….know there is always always going to be someone else…wanting you…tempting you….to be beter then what have, to love you more….to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel “Connected” to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life…Can a person do…

Sure….Sure…..

]]> By: Riff Dog http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-608 Riff Dog Wed, 27 May 2009 11:32:13 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-608 I agree with most of what you're saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then "moving on" is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I've chosen. ;-) I agree with most of what you’re saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then “moving on” is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I’ve chosen. ;-)

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-609 Anonymous Tue, 26 May 2009 00:18:09 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-609 Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend...if it's deep you'll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn't want to be with anyone else. Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend…if it’s deep you’ll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn’t want to be with anyone else.

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-610 Anonymous Sun, 24 May 2009 13:14:33 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-610 I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can't stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that's how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous. I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can’t stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that’s how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous.

]]> By: emma http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-611 emma Thu, 21 May 2009 02:42:32 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-611 I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.<br />but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want<br /><br />& i love your blog too xo I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.
but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want

& i love your blog too xo

]]> By: grace http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-612 grace Thu, 21 May 2009 01:25:56 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-612 i fucking love your blog. i fucking love your blog.

]]> By: LCWG http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-613 LCWG Thu, 21 May 2009 00:14:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-613 <i>hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???</i>Alas, no - 'lust' has Germanic roots, whereas 'lustre' comes from the Latin word for - er - 'lustre'. Interesting theory, though...<br /><br />Signed,<br /><br />Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can't believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight... just think of it as sexual attraction and it's not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I'm concerned.)<br /><br />(Suddenly, I feel very sad.) hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???Alas, no – ‘lust’ has Germanic roots, whereas ‘lustre’ comes from the Latin word for – er – ‘lustre’. Interesting theory, though…

Signed,

Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can’t believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight… just think of it as sexual attraction and it’s not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I’m concerned.)

(Suddenly, I feel very sad.)

]]> By: Nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-614 Nicole Wed, 20 May 2009 22:48:41 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-614 thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven't seem long at all so i'm excited to see what's to come :D <br /><br />p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING! thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven’t seem long at all so i’m excited to see what’s to come :D

p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING!

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-612 grace Thu, 21 May 2009 01:25:56 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-612 i fucking love your blog. i fucking love your blog.

]]> Comments on: a rant on monogamy: http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/ A pep talk in the form of a slap in the face in the form of a blog. Thu, 09 Sep 2010 04:11:09 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: different nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-12341 different nicole Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:18:58 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-12341 Of course everyone loves that first "euphoric" stage of the relationship. I've been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I'd say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We've gotten to a more "chill" stage of love now I guess. Of course we're still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it's not the same as it was. And you know what, that's not bad at all. It's not better or worse, it's just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we're bored, not because we're boring, but because we know each other so well that we don't have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who've never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something "boring." But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don't have to/need to take anyone's advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that's not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that's all you can do. Of course everyone loves that first “euphoric” stage of the relationship. I’ve been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I’d say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We’ve gotten to a more “chill” stage of love now I guess. Of course we’re still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it’s not the same as it was. And you know what, that’s not bad at all. It’s not better or worse, it’s just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we’re bored, not because we’re boring, but because we know each other so well that we don’t have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who’ve never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something “boring.” But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don’t have to/need to take anyone’s advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that’s not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that’s all you can do.

]]> By: Kitten http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-607 Kitten Fri, 29 May 2009 16:36:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-607 Read your blog....blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20's) and have been married 2 times....your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying...(ahem...clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows.."rich or pore, good and bad" etc.... which is what connects me with the man I "love". Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits...work, kids, every day life....as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) "You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can't live whithout her......(40 years later) that is love...true love" <br /><br />So, I guess the real question is....can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times....THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up....many times....but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words? <br /><br />Even I can't answer....as I struggle....I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic....know there is always always going to be someone else...wanting you...tempting you....to be beter then what have, to love you more....to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel "Connected" to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life...Can a person do...<br /><br />Sure....Sure..... Read your blog….blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20’s) and have been married 2 times….your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying…(ahem…clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows..”rich or pore, good and bad” etc…. which is what connects me with the man I “love”. Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits…work, kids, every day life….as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) “You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can’t live whithout her……(40 years later) that is love…true love”

So, I guess the real question is….can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times….THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up….many times….but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words?

Even I can’t answer….as I struggle….I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic….know there is always always going to be someone else…wanting you…tempting you….to be beter then what have, to love you more….to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel “Connected” to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life…Can a person do…

Sure….Sure…..

]]> By: Riff Dog http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-608 Riff Dog Wed, 27 May 2009 11:32:13 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-608 I agree with most of what you're saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then "moving on" is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I've chosen. ;-) I agree with most of what you’re saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then “moving on” is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I’ve chosen. ;-)

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-609 Anonymous Tue, 26 May 2009 00:18:09 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-609 Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend...if it's deep you'll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn't want to be with anyone else. Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend…if it’s deep you’ll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn’t want to be with anyone else.

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-610 Anonymous Sun, 24 May 2009 13:14:33 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-610 I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can't stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that's how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous. I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can’t stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that’s how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous.

]]> By: emma http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-611 emma Thu, 21 May 2009 02:42:32 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-611 I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.<br />but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want<br /><br />& i love your blog too xo I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.
but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want

& i love your blog too xo

]]> By: grace http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-612 grace Thu, 21 May 2009 01:25:56 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-612 i fucking love your blog. i fucking love your blog.

]]> By: LCWG http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-613 LCWG Thu, 21 May 2009 00:14:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-613 <i>hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???</i>Alas, no - 'lust' has Germanic roots, whereas 'lustre' comes from the Latin word for - er - 'lustre'. Interesting theory, though...<br /><br />Signed,<br /><br />Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can't believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight... just think of it as sexual attraction and it's not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I'm concerned.)<br /><br />(Suddenly, I feel very sad.) hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???Alas, no – ‘lust’ has Germanic roots, whereas ‘lustre’ comes from the Latin word for – er – ‘lustre’. Interesting theory, though…

Signed,

Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can’t believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight… just think of it as sexual attraction and it’s not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I’m concerned.)

(Suddenly, I feel very sad.)

]]> By: Nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-614 Nicole Wed, 20 May 2009 22:48:41 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-614 thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven't seem long at all so i'm excited to see what's to come :D <br /><br />p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING! thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven’t seem long at all so i’m excited to see what’s to come :D

p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING!

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-613 LCWG Thu, 21 May 2009 00:14:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-613 <i>hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???</i>Alas, no - 'lust' has Germanic roots, whereas 'lustre' comes from the Latin word for - er - 'lustre'. Interesting theory, though...<br /><br />Signed,<br /><br />Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can't believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight... just think of it as sexual attraction and it's not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I'm concerned.)<br /><br />(Suddenly, I feel very sad.) hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???Alas, no – ‘lust’ has Germanic roots, whereas ‘lustre’ comes from the Latin word for – er – ‘lustre’. Interesting theory, though…

Signed,

Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can’t believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight… just think of it as sexual attraction and it’s not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I’m concerned.)

(Suddenly, I feel very sad.)

]]> Comments on: a rant on monogamy: http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/ A pep talk in the form of a slap in the face in the form of a blog. Thu, 09 Sep 2010 04:11:09 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: different nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-12341 different nicole Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:18:58 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-12341 Of course everyone loves that first "euphoric" stage of the relationship. I've been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I'd say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We've gotten to a more "chill" stage of love now I guess. Of course we're still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it's not the same as it was. And you know what, that's not bad at all. It's not better or worse, it's just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we're bored, not because we're boring, but because we know each other so well that we don't have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who've never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something "boring." But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don't have to/need to take anyone's advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that's not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that's all you can do. Of course everyone loves that first “euphoric” stage of the relationship. I’ve been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I’d say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We’ve gotten to a more “chill” stage of love now I guess. Of course we’re still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it’s not the same as it was. And you know what, that’s not bad at all. It’s not better or worse, it’s just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we’re bored, not because we’re boring, but because we know each other so well that we don’t have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who’ve never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something “boring.” But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don’t have to/need to take anyone’s advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that’s not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that’s all you can do.

]]> By: Kitten http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-607 Kitten Fri, 29 May 2009 16:36:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-607 Read your blog....blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20's) and have been married 2 times....your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying...(ahem...clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows.."rich or pore, good and bad" etc.... which is what connects me with the man I "love". Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits...work, kids, every day life....as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) "You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can't live whithout her......(40 years later) that is love...true love" <br /><br />So, I guess the real question is....can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times....THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up....many times....but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words? <br /><br />Even I can't answer....as I struggle....I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic....know there is always always going to be someone else...wanting you...tempting you....to be beter then what have, to love you more....to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel "Connected" to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life...Can a person do...<br /><br />Sure....Sure..... Read your blog….blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20’s) and have been married 2 times….your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying…(ahem…clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows..”rich or pore, good and bad” etc…. which is what connects me with the man I “love”. Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits…work, kids, every day life….as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) “You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can’t live whithout her……(40 years later) that is love…true love”

So, I guess the real question is….can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times….THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up….many times….but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words?

Even I can’t answer….as I struggle….I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic….know there is always always going to be someone else…wanting you…tempting you….to be beter then what have, to love you more….to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel “Connected” to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life…Can a person do…

Sure….Sure…..

]]> By: Riff Dog http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-608 Riff Dog Wed, 27 May 2009 11:32:13 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-608 I agree with most of what you're saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then "moving on" is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I've chosen. ;-) I agree with most of what you’re saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then “moving on” is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I’ve chosen. ;-)

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-609 Anonymous Tue, 26 May 2009 00:18:09 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-609 Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend...if it's deep you'll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn't want to be with anyone else. Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend…if it’s deep you’ll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn’t want to be with anyone else.

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-610 Anonymous Sun, 24 May 2009 13:14:33 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-610 I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can't stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that's how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous. I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can’t stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that’s how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous.

]]> By: emma http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-611 emma Thu, 21 May 2009 02:42:32 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-611 I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.<br />but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want<br /><br />& i love your blog too xo I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.
but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want

& i love your blog too xo

]]> By: grace http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-612 grace Thu, 21 May 2009 01:25:56 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-612 i fucking love your blog. i fucking love your blog.

]]> By: LCWG http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-613 LCWG Thu, 21 May 2009 00:14:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-613 <i>hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???</i>Alas, no - 'lust' has Germanic roots, whereas 'lustre' comes from the Latin word for - er - 'lustre'. Interesting theory, though...<br /><br />Signed,<br /><br />Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can't believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight... just think of it as sexual attraction and it's not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I'm concerned.)<br /><br />(Suddenly, I feel very sad.) hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???Alas, no – ‘lust’ has Germanic roots, whereas ‘lustre’ comes from the Latin word for – er – ‘lustre’. Interesting theory, though…

Signed,

Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can’t believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight… just think of it as sexual attraction and it’s not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I’m concerned.)

(Suddenly, I feel very sad.)

]]> By: Nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-614 Nicole Wed, 20 May 2009 22:48:41 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-614 thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven't seem long at all so i'm excited to see what's to come :D <br /><br />p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING! thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven’t seem long at all so i’m excited to see what’s to come :D

p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING!

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-614 Nicole Wed, 20 May 2009 22:48:41 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-614 thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven't seem long at all so i'm excited to see what's to come :D <br /><br />p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING! thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven’t seem long at all so i’m excited to see what’s to come :D

p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING!

]]> Comments on: a rant on monogamy: http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/ A pep talk in the form of a slap in the face in the form of a blog. Thu, 09 Sep 2010 04:11:09 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: different nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-12341 different nicole Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:18:58 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-12341 Of course everyone loves that first "euphoric" stage of the relationship. I've been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I'd say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We've gotten to a more "chill" stage of love now I guess. Of course we're still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it's not the same as it was. And you know what, that's not bad at all. It's not better or worse, it's just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we're bored, not because we're boring, but because we know each other so well that we don't have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who've never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something "boring." But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don't have to/need to take anyone's advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that's not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that's all you can do. Of course everyone loves that first “euphoric” stage of the relationship. I’ve been dating the same boy for 4 years now, and I’d say even a year or two into the relationship we were still in the infatuation stage of the relationship where we were just giddy to see each other, butterflies and all that cheesy bull. We’ve gotten to a more “chill” stage of love now I guess. Of course we’re still happy to see each other and happy to be together, but it’s not the same as it was. And you know what, that’s not bad at all. It’s not better or worse, it’s just different. And sometimes I still feel that same giddy, happy, crushy feeling that I got when I was with him for those first two years. And it feels really good. But so does just sitting with him at dinner in a restaurant, not saying anything. Not because we’re bored, not because we’re boring, but because we know each other so well that we don’t have to talk about something stupid like our favorite bands or our old relationships, or what our families are like or shit like that. We know what each other is thinking. People who’ve never experienced this (but people that are in the infatuation stage) seem to look down on this as something “boring.” But its not. At all. I love it. Just wait until you get there, Suzie, Nicole. And relationships are always different, for everyone, all the time. You don’t have to/need to take anyone’s advice. (except for that hitting stuff, that’s not really okay no matter what.) Figure it out for yourself, that’s all you can do.

]]> By: Kitten http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-607 Kitten Fri, 29 May 2009 16:36:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-607 Read your blog....blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20's) and have been married 2 times....your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying...(ahem...clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows.."rich or pore, good and bad" etc.... which is what connects me with the man I "love". Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits...work, kids, every day life....as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) "You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can't live whithout her......(40 years later) that is love...true love" <br /><br />So, I guess the real question is....can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times....THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up....many times....but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words? <br /><br />Even I can't answer....as I struggle....I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic....know there is always always going to be someone else...wanting you...tempting you....to be beter then what have, to love you more....to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel "Connected" to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life...Can a person do...<br /><br />Sure....Sure..... Read your blog….blew me away. Although I am 37 (people say i still look as good as my 20’s) and have been married 2 times….your questions really moved me. I want to start by saying…(ahem…clearing throat) I am a very loyal and patient person and believe in the ACTUAL marriage vows..”rich or pore, good and bad” etc…. which is what connects me with the man I “love”. Your so right, we do move from the clouds and reality hits…work, kids, every day life….as my father once told me (and we are by no means close, I will just never forget him saying this one thing to me) “You know you really love someone when you go through sooooo much together, child birth, issues, life and you are STILL together and you can still look that woman in the eyes and KNOW in your hear that you truly can’t live whithout her……(40 years later) that is love…true love”

So, I guess the real question is….can a person, woman/man/lover/bf/gf, with stand through alllll the rough times ahead, the stormy weather? Can a relationship truly grow and grow and get better and two people just NOT give up on one another? Truly stick it out? THERE WILL BE ROUGH times….THERE WILL BE Times when you want to give up….many times….but what about the vows??? Do they mean anything anymore? What about respect for those simple words?

Even I can’t answer….as I struggle….I can only experience and enjoy and be optimistic….know there is always always going to be someone else…wanting you…tempting you….to be beter then what have, to love you more….to be allll that you think you want as you grow older and wiser (Your choices willll CHANGE and mature) You will always want to feel “Connected” to someone spiritually, emotionally, phycically. THat is the Circle of life…Can a person do…

Sure….Sure…..

]]> By: Riff Dog http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-608 Riff Dog Wed, 27 May 2009 11:32:13 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-608 I agree with most of what you're saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then "moving on" is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I've chosen. ;-) I agree with most of what you’re saying here. Of course, once children and responsibilities enter the equation, then “moving on” is a little more problematic. Hence, the reason so many people choose the path I’ve chosen. ;-)

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-609 Anonymous Tue, 26 May 2009 00:18:09 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-609 Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend...if it's deep you'll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn't want to be with anyone else. Nothing is better than having a significant other who is your best friend…if it’s deep you’ll know. Great relationships always supersede everything else, even wanting to make out with other dudes. I hope you find someone so great you wouldn’t want to be with anyone else.

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-610 Anonymous Sun, 24 May 2009 13:14:33 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-610 I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can't stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that's how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous. I think, for me at least, if you start wanting to kiss other people and you can’t stick around after the euphoria wears off it never really was love anyway. Love is when the guy is your best friend: the person you most want to tell anything to, the person you can hang out with without having to talk, the person who pretty much knows how you feel a lot of the time by osmosis and responds in the best possible way because you have this awesome bond that makes it so. There are ups and downs and sometimes you even think you hate each other but you always get through it and that’s how you know how much you really love each other. Oh, and yes: you feel really safe -even if you never before thought that you were feeling dangerous.

]]> By: emma http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-611 emma Thu, 21 May 2009 02:42:32 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-611 I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.<br />but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want<br /><br />& i love your blog too xo I think it's different for everyone. I know that I'm addicted to that stage where you're chasing boys.. it's like it's not what you get out after your put effort into a boy but the actual efforts that are fun rewarding.. i don't know.
but for other people, they find someone that they actually truly love and couldn't stand ever being apart from them. and this love apparently lasts until they're like 80. maybe you should interview some old people. it might not be trendy/interesting but at least you'll get the answers you want

& i love your blog too xo

]]> By: grace http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-612 grace Thu, 21 May 2009 01:25:56 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-612 i fucking love your blog. i fucking love your blog.

]]> By: LCWG http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-613 LCWG Thu, 21 May 2009 00:14:40 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-613 <i>hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???</i>Alas, no - 'lust' has Germanic roots, whereas 'lustre' comes from the Latin word for - er - 'lustre'. Interesting theory, though...<br /><br />Signed,<br /><br />Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can't believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight... just think of it as sexual attraction and it's not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I'm concerned.)<br /><br />(Suddenly, I feel very sad.) hmm, is that the derivation of the word luster???Alas, no – ‘lust’ has Germanic roots, whereas ‘lustre’ comes from the Latin word for – er – ‘lustre’. Interesting theory, though…

Signed,

Lurking Compulsive Word-geek (Who can’t believe she just added the above comment to an otherwise fascinating discussion, but compulsions are hard to fight… just think of it as sexual attraction and it’s not so off-topic anymore. Yes. Word-geekery is sex, as far as I’m concerned.)

(Suddenly, I feel very sad.)

]]> By: Nicole http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-614 Nicole Wed, 20 May 2009 22:48:41 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-614 thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven't seem long at all so i'm excited to see what's to come :D <br /><br />p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING! thank you for your advice.. i take it to heart. 5 months haven’t seem long at all so i’m excited to see what’s to come :D

p.s. i just wanted to say how much i love this blog and alexi wasser is AMAZING!

]]> By: Anonymous http://imboycrazy.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy/comment-page-1/#comment-615 Anonymous Wed, 20 May 2009 22:25:01 +0000 http://s64881.gridserver.com/2009/05/a-rant-on-monogamy.html#comment-615 ummm, like....when did robotofmystery start thinking it was his blog? you better put your foot down grrrlll ummm, like….when did robotofmystery start thinking it was his blog? you better put your foot down grrrlll

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