Comments on: READER SUBMISSION- something to think about:

By: something-just-happened

something-just-happened — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 20:13:29 +0000

I ask myself these questions everyday. I’ve never got any answers just more evidence point to “no”.

By: I’m Boy Crazy. « this is stupid i love you.

I’m Boy Crazy. « this is stupid i love you. — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 21:34:36 +0000

[...] think the girl is witty and real. This is a recent post of hers… well it’s actually a reader’s submission – but still. It got me [...]

By: Oleandersales

Oleandersales — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 17:57:56 +0000

Great post: really tough to find the balance. I think manners and really knowing each other before you take a bigger step. Also innate compatibility.

By: Rackle

Rackle — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 19:59:19 +0000

i don’t consider myself heartless, really, but i think it’s pointless to waste energy asking the “what ifs” unless it’s truly a pending situation with a decision needing to be made right then & there. and these questions all sounded pretty cliche. i’m just more practical, i guess. i mean, it’s like wondering, what if i died tomorrow? who cares? you won’t be around to worry about it.

this is why i sucked at all of my college philosophy courses except those dealing with logic.

By: tg

tg — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 03:42:47 +0000

need to love someone? love your friends…

By: Girl

Girl — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 05:13:34 +0000

I just want to find a man before I even begin to ask myself such questions. I mean, I think we can all agree that finding that “someone” is already complicated, haha.

We can plan all we want about how we’d face these situations but nothing ever goes according to plan.

Once we’re put in a relationship and faced with such problems, we’ll know. You must be put in that moment to realize the intensity of your feelings and then choose either left or right.

By: intern kendra

intern kendra — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 01:10:12 +0000

i love this! and i love the playlist even more!
xo

By: N.S

N.S — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 08:50:13 +0000

This piece does leave you with a lot to think about Scott well done.

I would say that Love is one of the many risk a person can take in their lives. I stopped believing in soul mates a long time ago as with love a soul mate can come in any form, and they can change as quickly as your life, maturity level, and needs change.

It is human nature to want to walk your path with someone who supports and accepts who you are, the good and the bad parts. I find that it does help to have someone that shares the same interest, but is is nice to have someone that can lend a different perspective to your life. Relationships are about the two individuals and where they are with in themselves. If you are insecure about where your life is going and you are watching your partners life flourish, naturally (unconsciously for some of us) it will be easier for you to be selfish/ fearful that there life’s path will change their relationship. This could be the same for the individual seeing their dreams flourish to become so caught up that they forget to be truly supportive to their partner.

Though I do believe that their is so much pressure to find that one, get married, have kids whatever, the old ways have taught us. But, I think the greatest thing about a healthy loving relationship is getting through the obstacles of not knowing where things will end up, but just going for it and being okay with letting go if that is the end result. It is even better when you are not searching for it and it finds you.

You asked “if we only have one life to live, should we as people allow this to happen?”

I think NO, if it doesn’t make you a better person or diminishes who you are within yourself. I say Yes, if they open your eyes to a life and path you never considered in your “Single Blueprint”.

You could easily ask yourself the same question about your Career and the sacrifices you make in order to get ahead No??

By: Virginia

Virginia — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 08:11:12 +0000

This is brilliant. This is a though provoking realistic look at love and the individual. In addition to “soul mates” we have other loves in our lives; other people, other interests… and how this all collides together is so amazing.
I think in our Western society, people have preconceived ideas of ‘relationship’ and what’s appropriate. I think film and other media play on this fascination only enhancing the problem.

Because there isn’t an answer, the topic will continue to entice thought, while life experiences will lead to different outlooks for each person.

Thanks for posting Scott.

By: Erik Kolacek

Erik Kolacek — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 01:47:14 +0000

Scott,

Great piece. I would like to respond to your assertion that “Balance and contradiction are in everything.”

I’m not sure which 10K peak you climbed to get that information…maybe you’re just brilliant. Either way, I have to agree with you from the bottom of my heart.

Likewise – I do believe that soul mates are a tangible thing and that they can and often do exist. I say that as the product of a broken marriage, and also as a divorced guy myself.

I’m pretty sure that I’ve met mine…at last. As soon as she stops wanting to stab me in my sleep, I’ll write back and report on how it works out.

(self-deprecation, folks…look it up)

Thanks again Scott. Cheers.